Love Spells – Dark magick or not?

It seems to be an immutable law of nature. Why so many books containing so many love spells? Why such an emphasis on a kind of magick that I, personally, have always considered dark its nature? And to make matters even more confusing, the books that do take the trouble of dividing spells between 'positive' and 'negative' magick invariably list love spells under the first heading. After all, they would argue, love is a good thing. There can never be too much of it. Therefore, any spell that brings about love must be a good spell. Never mind that the spell puts a straitjacket on another's free will, and then drops it in cement for good measure.

I learned as a journeyman Occultist in my early days something called the Witch's Rede, a kind of 'golden rule' in traditional Witchcraft. It states, 'An it harm none, do what thou will.' One uses this rede as a kind of ethical litmus test for a spell. If the spell brings harm to someone — anyone (including yourself!) — then don't do it! Unfortunately, this rule contains a loophole big enough to fly a broom through. It's commonly expressed, 'Oh, this won't harm them; it's really for their own good.' When you hear someone say that, take cover, because something is about to go bang!!.

But there's another law in Witchcraft called the Law of Threefold Return. This says that whatever power you send out, eventually comes back to you three times more powerful. And love spells, of the typical, make a particular someone love me type, definitely have an impact on another's free will.

So why are they so common? It's taken me years to figure this out, and this is the conclusion I have come too. The plain truth is that most of us need love. Without it, our lives are empty and miserable. After our basic survival needs have been met, we must have affection and companionship for a full life. And if it will not come of its own accord, some of us may be tempted to force it to manifest. And nothing can be as painful as loving someone who doesn't love you back. Consequently, the most common, garden-variety spell in the world is the love spell.

Is there ever a way to do a love spell and yet stay within the parameters of the Witch's Rede? Possibly. Some teachers have argued that if a spell doesn't attempt to attract a specific person into your life, but rather attempts to attract the right person, whomever that may be, then it is not negative magick. Even so, one should make sure that the spell finds people who are 'right' for each other — so that neither is harmed, and both are made happy.

Is there ever an excuse for the” attract a specific person type of spell”? Without endorsing this viewpoint, I must admit that the most cogent argument in its favour is the following: Whenever you fall in love with someone, you do everything in your power to impress them. And at the same time, you unconsciously set in motion some very powerful psychic forces. If you've ever walked into a room where someone has a crush on you, you know what I mean. You can feel it. Proponents of this school say that a love spell only takes the forces that are already there — must be there if you're in love — and channels them more efficiently.

But the energy would be there just the same, whether or not you use a spell to focus it.

I won't attempt to decide this one for you. People must arrive at their own set of ethics through their own considerations. However, I would call to your attention all the cautionary tales in folk magick about love spells gone awry. Also, if a love spell has been employed to join two people who are not naturally compatible, then one must keep pumping energy into that spell. And when one finally tires of this (and one will, because it is hard work!) then the spell will unravel amidst an emotional and psychic hurricane that will make the stormiest divorces seem calm by comparison. Not a pretty picture.

One mitigating factor in your decisions may be the particular tradition of magick you follow. For example, I've often noticed that practitioners of Voudoun (Voodoo) and Santeria seem much more focused on the wants and needs of day-to-day living than on the abstruse ethical considerations we've been examining here. That's not a value judgment — just an observation. For example, most followers of Wicca still don't know how to react when a Santerian priest spills the blood of a chicken during a ritual — other than to feel pretty queasy. The ethics of one culture is not always the same as another.

And speaking of cultural traditions, another consideration is how a culture views love and sex. It has often been pointed out that in our predominant culture; love and sex are seen in very possessive terms, where the beloved is regarded as one's personal property. If the spell uses this approach, treating a person as an object, jealously attempting to cut off all other relationships, then the ethics are seriously in doubt.

However, if the spell takes a more open approach to love and sex, not attempting to limit a person's other relationships in any way, then perhaps it is more plausible. Perhaps. Still, it might be wise to ask, is this the kind of spell I'd want someone to cast on me?

If you are a practitioner of magick, I dare say you will one day be faced with the choice. If you haven't yet, it is only a matter of time. And if the answer is yes, then which spells are ethical and which aren't? Then you, and only you will have to decide whether 'All's fair in love and war', or whether there are other, higher, metaphysical considerations.

ii-wy em Hotep - Patrick Gaffiero